Section 1: Steadying Yourself for the Road Ahead
Step 1: Finding Clarity in a Storm
When someone you love is diagnosed with cancer, your mind can feel like a crowded room where thoughts and worries all speak at once. The first step isn’t to solve everything. It’s simply to notice what’s happening inside you.
Before we begin, let’s take 30 seconds together to pause:
Quick Grounding Exercise (30 seconds)
- Breathe in slowly through your nose for 4 seconds.
- Hold that breath for 4 seconds.
- Exhale gently through your mouth for 4 seconds.
- Pause for 4 seconds.
- Repeat once more.
Notice how even two rounds of this can soften the edges a little.
Now, let’s begin reflecting. You’ll see some prompts below. You don’t need to answer them all right now; even completing one or two can help. There are no wrong answers. Getting thoughts out of your head and onto a page (or into a recording) makes them visible and easier to handle. You can type in the box, write on paper, or record your voice. The best way is whatever feels most natural to you.
Questions, worries and emotions
Stray thoughts, talking to someone and Next steps
Remember: you can come back and add more at any time.
If you’d prefer to talk instead of write, these resources are here whenever you need them:
Step 2: Calming Panic When It Arises
Moments of panic or anxiety are normal. Your heart may race, your chest may feel tight, or your thoughts may spiral. You are not alone in this. And the good news is: there are simple ways to calm your body and mind.
Step 3: Taking Small Steps Forward
Overwhelm grows when everything feels too big. The antidote is starting small. Tiny steps may feel almost trivial, but they shift you from frozen to moving. Have a look back at your reflections. Choose 1–3 small, low-effort steps you could take today.
Emotional
Send a short text to a friend.
Practical
Put tomorrow’s appointment letter in your bag.
Self-care
Drink a glass of water or step outside for fresh air.
Tip: Try turning one of your ideas into an “If–then” plan:
“If I feel panic rising, then I will try 2 rounds of box breathing.”
“If–then” plans give you a ready-made action when your mind feels stuck. You can reuse them anytime…
You’ve just done some of the hardest work: pausing, calming, and starting to sort through the noise. This isn’t about fixing everything today. It’s about building a steady foundation for what comes next.